Tomorrow I turn 20 years old.
Within the 20 years of my life, I have never been kissed. I’ve never gone on a date. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve never held hands with a guy. I’ve never been alone with a guy.
The reason I bring this up is because it seems that a lot of people have a problem with the fact that I haven’t any of those things. I get hints dropped around me all the time: “Do you have a boyfriend?” “Oh that young man looks single.”
What bothers me even more is that most of the time, these hints are dropped by Christians. I would have thought that my brothers and sisters in Christ would be the ones to encourage and applaud me for not running around looking for a boyfriend.
It seems to me that, at my age, if I don’t have a boyfriend, people think something is wrong with me. They define me by whether or not I’m ‘in a relationship’.
I am not defined by my relationships. I am defined by Christ. The relationship I have with Him is far and above the most important relationship I can have. I put all my focus on that, not in looking for a ‘significant other’.
I don’t want a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I don’t need a ‘companion’ for the sake of not being ‘single’. I literally could not care less.
It’s not my job to run around looking for someone to be by my side. I know God has the right man for me already picked out, and I know God doesn’t need my help to bring us together. Right now it is my job to focus on Christ and serve Him with every part of me.
~Your 20 year old Pickle